What is a parent?
This is a brief post which defines the term parent. Throughout my writings when inciting this term, I do so with this definition in mind. Without such a clear definition of what a parent is and is not, we risk disrupting the very fabric of our homes, communities and our nation. Sounds a bit over the top? To some maybe, but to others, history speaks for itself and our lack of knowledge and unwillingness to act upon what we know to be true, leads us to misrepresent this one word, leading individuals, our communities, and our leaders to commit a multiplicity of injustices.
Sticking to our objective of keeping this post short we are going to refrain from regurgitating historical references of former nations and their policies and practices in relation to the family. However, if you have never considered the impact of the family on society and your government, be encouraged, take a little extra time to search out the matter, study the Roman Empire a bit and look how the laws progressed the family and see the end of that progression. For us, in this post, we will stick to the clear, but brief definition of the term parent.
So what is a parent? We are going to explore this term by first looking at its definition in the simplest of forms. Then, we will dissect that term, separating out the individual parts, the father, and the mother, providing their definitions and concluding with the essence of the term parent. To begin, we look at Webster’s definition of Parent….
1. a : one that begets or brings forth offspring
b : a person who brings up and cares for another
Webster’s definition is one which many subscribe to. At fist glance, the term parent would seem ubiquitous with the giver and receiver of seed, those who participated in the act of bringing forth life, life givers. But, upon further study we learn the parent is indeed a person who brings up and cares for another. So, why the distinction? The importance of establishing the first term of a parent is in order to establish the right of the life-giver. The life-giver has the right of first refusal, this is to say, they have first right of being the parent of their seed. But, having seed alone does not make one a parent. The importance of establishing the second term of the word parent, is to establish the liberties and property rights of the seed givers and the rights and liberties of the child. So, the first term is a means of establishing the seed givers first rights to the second term. The second term establishes and protects the liberties of the parent and the child.
To understand this, we look at the terms Father and Mother, both terms illustrate the fact that being a parent is not predicated upon being the life-giver. Rather, the life-giver has first right of refusal, as established by the first term which defines the word parent. This first term which describes the term parent, gives the life-giver the right to refuse the second term, which is the essence of the term parent.
1. He who begets a child; in L. genitor or generator.
5. One who feeds and supports or exercises paternal care over another. God is called the father of the fatherless.
1. A female parent; especially, one of the human race; a woman who has borne a child; correlative to son or daughter.
6. An appellation given to a woman who exercises care and tenderness towards another, or gives parental advice; as when one says,” a woman has been a mother to me.
Upon review of both terms, Father and Mother we learn the seed giver and receiver have first right of refusal. By default, they are the parent of the child as clearly set forth in the first definitions of both terms Father and Mother. However, the term parent includes more than the giving of, or receiving of seed, as clearly established by the fifth definition of the term Father and the sixth definition of the term Mother. Therefor, the essence of the term Parent is the one who raises up a child into adulthood, they are the caregiver until care can be independently secured by that child.
The destructive ripple effects of misunderstanding this term, parent, are far and wide. Every child who is displaced from their life-giver, by that life-giver exercising their right of refusal, whether it be exercised in death, abandonment, adoption, divorce, or under the guise of another term, has the right to be looked upon as having a parent. Not the seed giver who departed, but the individual who cares for them, that individual or those individuals, are that child’s parent.